The beat

Sex Without Intimacy and Intimacy Without Sex When we experience an orgasm,  we reveal ourselves more completely and more honestly than at any other time. We let our egos die for a moment, and we have the chance to experience a true connection with another person. Then the ego comes back into the picture, and we’re hit with the fear of separation, and all of our old patterns. If we don’t have enough trust or enough safety, we will feel threatened, guilty, and generally unsafe. No matter how much society’s beliefs about sex have evolved in our lifetime, our core conditioning tells us that there’s no such thing as no-strings sex. We still equate sex with love, and love with commitment. And we equate love and commitment with vulnerability, responsibility, and the fear that our needs will not be met. Sex is very easy to come by in today’s society. What most of us crave, however, is not sex, but intimacy. The challenge is that the only model most of us have for expressing or experiencin...